For so many, finding out the child they are carrying, the child they have been anticipating, has a birth “defect”, is devastating news. I hate hate hate using that word… DEFECT. Like a badly made pair of shoes you have to return to the store because they fell apart before they were supposed to. Isn’t that a terrible way to look at it? That’s how much of the world, our world, looks at these precious children… poorly made and worthy of nothing more than to be destroyed so that parents can try for a “normal” baby afterwards.
This child will be “different”, right? Is that what people are afraid of? Being judged, scoffed at by others for having a child who is “disabled”, deformed, or being called the “R” word. As terrible as this is, there is some valid concern here, “will my child be made fun of?”, “Will my child have a good life?” But should that fear, yes that is all it is, FEAR… really make one choose to do away with their child? Does that in and of itself justify ending a life? Of course not! What happened to being fearless, strong and determined? Why are we so afraid of everything? Is this just our culture to turn a blind eye and run from anything that calls us to rise up and overcome?
It seems every culture in the world believes babies who are “different” should be dealt with or locked away forever. Babies all over the world are abandoned in train stations, flushed down the toilet, tossed into pit latrines and left to drown in filth, sold into the sex trafficking industry, and so on and so on… Even remote tribes people living deep in the jungles of the Amazon believe if a baby is born with a deformity, it is the mothers duty to kill the child. terrible right? I can’t even believe this happens? This is all worse than anything I could ever imagine happening!
I was recently driving and spotted a bumper sticker the other day. I saw the notorious pro-abortion statement which said, “If it’s not your body, it’s not your choice.” This statement is the most ridiculous thing. Yet so many very intelligent politicans, doctors, educators and so on, keep saying this? Agreeing with this, like it makes so much sense. However, here I am looking at this statement and all I can think is this; When you are choosing to stop the beating heart of someone other than yourself, it is no longer “YOUR” body. Even if that beating heart is contained inside your body, it is still undeniably, someone else’s beating heart. How can anyone who is well educated argue with that? Its very simple isnt it? Yet nobody seems to “get it”.
And really, is it a fair argument to push to terminate a life because the baby isn’t perfect or “normal” whatever that means. Aren’t we all “defective” and abnormal somehow? How many of us have perfect minds and/or bodies? Do any of us have perfect skin, straight teeth, flawless physique, brilliant minds, personalities free of oddness and mental issues, etc? Yeah I thought so. So why is it so hard for would be parents to realize this?
What’s worse? Finding out your child has a fatal condition. One that will take the life of your precious love before he or she takes their first breath. Or maybe minutes, or hours after birth. Maybe people figure they don’t want to go through the pregnancy and birth only to lose the baby… I mean, pregnancy is tough, I know, I have had three tough ones. Maybe it just seems to hard, too real to actually meet this child, bond and then say goodbye. For thousands upon thousands, abortion is the fate their child succumbs to when a disheartening diagnosis enters the picture.
But for some, many in fact… they choose life. They choose to take the chance. They choose to let whatever will happen, happen. THIS is one such story.
The couple in this short video are giving us a precious glimpse into that world. It is unimaginable. Raw. Heart shattering. But it’s beyond precious… that little tiny light they’ve shared with us. They chose life for their child even thought they knew it would be the hardest path they’ve ever taken. And for that, I commend them. I thank them.
All this said, it is well established throughout my blog what my stance is on abortion. However, I believe some people try to do the best they can in their circumstances. Many have regrets, and many don’t. My post is not intended to judge anyone for their choices, it is only to shed light on this very hard topic. Hateful comments are not appreciated. If you care to share your story, you are welcome to.