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Say “Thank You”!

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Thank you. When you hear those words, one thinks of it as a positive thing. Maybe someone gave a gift, provided assistance, a courteous gesture, or paid someone a nice compliment. Thank you is associated with goodness and gratitude.

It might surprise some to hear that “thank you” can be used as a shield for some negative things. In fact, it’s an extremely valuable tool. How?

I teach my kids that when someone says something mean, look right at them, smile a really obnoxiously authentic smile, say a really enthusiastic “THANK YOU!”, and walk away. If someone on the playground says, “You can’t play with us!”, smile and say an enthusiastic, “okay, thanks!”, walk away and find something else to do. We don’t need unkind people as friends. Pray for them, don’t play with them.

If they still get their little hearts broken and need some support have them hug it out when they come home. Tell them to go take a breath somewhere else, talk to a friend, teacher or go talk to the school counselor if needed to vent. When it comes to bullies, tears are fuel.

It’s really important that we don’t teach kids to bottle up their feelings which can have a whole mess of consequences. Openness is of huge importance here.

When my son was little, there were so many tears. Kids that didn’t want him to play with them, someone saying mean things… Once I taught him “thank you”, and he tried it, AND IT WORKED – he gained a new confidence. No more tears. He was so happy and free from the hurt of those things. He no longer worried what would happen if he was rejected, he no longer cared if someone teased him. It was a marvelous thing.

Unfortunately much of our world is not kind and we need to show bullies their games don’t work! Let’s teach our kids to say “thank you”.

If you ever find yourself on the flip side of this, and discover your child has done the bullying. Yes, your sweet little one is human after all. Trying to fit in and find his/her way in the social world. What to do?

You can start by create a never-ending dialog. Constantly ask them what kind of person they want to be in life and always remind them who God created them to be. Find out how they’d feel in someone else’s position if they were being made fun of. Talk, talk, talk and every time there’s a teaching moment – take it!

Parenting isn’t easy, life isn’t easy, but we can do our best to teach and model love, tolerance, respect, kindness and strength. GO FORTH AND SAY THANK YOU!

Check out this little kiddos story which inspired my post today.

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Blessing NOT Curse

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For far too long entire societies and cultures have seen Down Syndrome as a curse.  Parents give up their babies to orphanages or have abortions based on a very inaccurate stigma.  The first time I heard the term “Mongoloid child” I wanted to vomit.  Why would anyone place such a cruel sounding label on another?  Like they’re an outcast to be feared.   Why “Down” Syndrome?  Why not call it “Up” Syndrome?  Can we be positive as a society, as a world, about our friends with differences?

Individuals born with Downs is often seen as someone who cannot learn, who can’t be productive as a member of society,  no true knowledge of life or reality, a waste, someone who should have been aborted.   This is a very widespread mentality and a prime culprit for why orphanages round the globe are so full.  It’s why “Handicap Accessible” is not recognized by many many countries.  Why, in those countries there just aren’t programs in place to support families who give birth to a special needs child.  Which ultimately lead to parents giving up their child to be cared for in an orphanage, which truly is a death sentence.

I wish we ALL could see value in difference of all kinds!   The face of Down syndrome for instance, shouldn’t be a stigma but instead be what it really truly IS.   Business owners, actors, actresses, parents, teachers, employees, volunteers, students, brothers, sisters, sons and daughters, friends, and more!   

All these things are true!  Just like the rest of us, they have goals and dreams and aren’t afraid to work hard to achieve their goals.  

Spread love!  Teach tolerance!

And the Winner Is…

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You guys are constantly amazing me with your outpouring of support.  $1,831 was raised for the Adair family!  Seriously, blown away, every time.  Thank you!

We had a bit of unfinished business to take care of – the Nintendo 3DS XL drawing!

 

Nintendo 3DS XL Giveaway!

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As most of you know, I like to help families in the adoption process.   That’s fairly clear at this stage in the game right?   Many times families head into adoption process without being funded simply because time is of the essence.  In many cases, the children cannot wait.  Maybe they are at risk for transfer to a larger adult institution – in which case their safety and survival are in grave danger.  Medically fragile kiddos are almost always in that group.  A family may learn of a child who’s literally starving to death or medically fragile and they reach for their running shoes – cause it’s time to run!!!  The Adair’s situation is this – God said go!  So here they are trusting that every effort will bring them their babies.  They are doing everything they can to raise the funds just short of selling the shirts on their backs to get their girls home, but there is A LOT left to be done.

Adairs

Currently I have an active auction going via Facebook for the Adair family who are bringing home two precious sisters. But we thought it needed to be kicked up a notch!

A GIVEAWAY!!

UPDATE 7/22:   We have reached our goal everyone!!!

SOOOOO now, until 10pm PST tonight, EACH and EVERY bid gets counted into the drawing for the Nintendo 3DS XL!

Even if you are bidding on an item that already has bids! If you bid up twice, that’s two entries. Three, four, five… You get it. See all the details below!

A bit over 4 hours to get those entries in!!!
Ends tonight at 10pm PST!! Bids marked at 10:01pm or later are void.

We only have 27 entries thus far so GO GO GO!!!

So…
#1 Find any item in the auction.

#2 Place you bid!

You’re entered!
You get one free entry for sharing this auction (outside the RR group page) which must be set to public! Sharing in other groups is great too! You must PM me a copy/screenshot of your share in order for it to count so don’t forget!!

Auction album link: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.1521205457949926.1073741843.661910380546109&type=1&l=3a77e8c32b

All Proceeds to benefit the Adair family adopting two little girls. Winner will be drawn/ Prize will be sent to winner after all accounting is closed and settled following the auction. Meaning all items must be paid for first.

Whats the prize?

******A BRAND NEW Nintendo 3DS XL!!! *****
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Aura Lee

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This sweet child is Aura Lee.

She lived in an orphanage for the first 6 years of her life.  Lonely perhaps, neglected – probably, but her most basic needs are met.

She’s a beautiful child.

 Then the day came.  The awful, inevitable day of transfer.  For many children this is a death sentence – that’s the horrible truth so many kids face.   She was transferred to an adult mental institution.  This is her shortly after transfer.   

7 years old and tiny as a toddler.  Starved.  Restrained. Vulnerable. 

Little Aura Lee just had her 8th birthday.  Life for her is not life at all.  Now, she’s literally hanging on by a thread.  If you watch the video below carefully, you can see her collar bone protruding and bruises.  

Click to watch – Video of Aura Lee

The good news is she has an incredible family fighting to get her out and bring her home.  The bad part is the harsh reality little Aura Lee may not survive long enough.  This family is in a big hurry!  They are doing everything they can but they can’t do it alone.    Please check out their bio to lean more about their journey and consider how you can help this little girl survive.   Pray, donate, share?  Heck, reach out to the family and ask how you can support them!  I want to see this sweetheart come home. I want to meet her someday since she’ll be so close to me!  I want to see her survive and thrive!

Another One?

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“Another one?  Not another annoying auction post, I’m so tired of those.”

“Another fundraiser?”

“Another blurb talking about yet another family that needs help?”

“Is she really trying to tell me again about “the children”?”

“Keep scrolling, don’t comment, don’t click “like”, pretend you didn’t see it.”

“Never ask her about what she does, and don’t try to engage her – she might bring it up!”

“The stuff she says or writes about can’t be true anyway so who cares.”

“It’s too sad, I don’t want to know.”

“Omg, if I have to read the words “orphans” or “foster care” or “child abuse” one more time!”  

“Seriously, another obnoxious post about orphans – I’m so tired of seeing these.” (clicks unfollow) 

Yes, these are all realities in my world friends. 

For me it’s, another uncomfortable conversation ending with a canned “oh that’s nice” and a quick subject change.

Another friend who choose to unfriend/unfollow me because of my “agenda”- and another, and another.

Yes, I very much understand how uncomfortable and heavy this subject is.  I understand that for many it’s almost too much to bear. So it seems easier to look the other way and try to forget. 

I understand that you might not be sure how you should react when you learn about what I do.

I get it, I do.  But at the very least, try to understand why I do this.  Why I care about helping families, who are stepping out in faith, and helping them fund their adoptions.  Why I advocate for the orphans, the abused, the forgotten, the at risk.

Look this precious child.  The eerie similarity to a holocaust victim is chilling.  This is a child, living and breathing.  Starved and bedridden, barely touched or moved so her body is stuck and atrophied.  Her caregivers would say it’s her condition that makes her look this way, unwilling to admit it’s cause is purely neglect.  

And what about 10 year old, S?

Left laying in a bed for his entire life, body growing into the twisted emmaciated frame you see here.  The size of a toddler. 

 Pure neglect and abuse.  Yet he smiles with the roughest most unfeeling touch because it’s all he can get.  
Click to see a video of little “S”.  The transformation that I’ve personally seen in children like this is astounding!  Love and nourishment can do so much.

Remember Hope?  I advocated for her family a while back.  Just wait for the update on her!  She’s amazing!

If you’re still with me here, thank you- for at least trying to understand. This isn’t about an “agenda”, it’s about lives.

What these kids endure is unimaginable.  For the most innocent treasures to be treated so terribly is a travesty.  It just simply should not be.  But it is reality.

Please check out the links below for more information.

The Gagnon family

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Orphanage and foster care realities:  http://www.ransomforisrael.com/adoption-the-today-and-the-tomorrows/

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A little translation to assist in your reading of this:  Teacher = caregiver & care homes = orphanage.

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Missing children 

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The truth about institutions

Just a Dad with a Wish

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It’s fathers day! Brandon Willis is a dad to three beautiful daughters, but there’s a problem – only two of his daughters are with him each day.   He waits for the day to come when he gets to hug his oldest daughter again.  The day where she doesn’t have to worry she’ll have to leave her family again.  The day where he knows 100% that his daughter is going wake up each morning knowing there are four people waiting to greet her as a daughter and a sister, with lots of love!  

 She was here, then she was gone.  The waiting is hard.  

 Help a father out by bidding on some great items to help bring his daughter home!  This family needs some massive support-  Where are my auction junkies at? 

Store open – auction style!  A portion of the proceeds go to help a beautiful family adopting a sweet 12 year old girl.

 Every bid gains an entry to win a pair of LULAROE  -TC- AUTISM AWARENESS- puzzle pieces leggings!!  A MAJOR UNICORN!  Oh yeah!

Each bid counts as an entry!  Even on the same item if you’re outbid!   Head on over and check out the items and help this family bring their daughter home

(Winner will receive prize after any item winnings are paid for. )

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