As I sat there watching this atrocity unfold on TV about abortion rights, my insides shriveled up in disgust over what my ears were hearing. I heard things like, abortion may be what is “Best for the mother or what is best for the child”. BEST FOR THE CHILD? How is killing a child ever “best” for him/her? It’s appalling anyone would agree with this statement right? But then I hear on the TV, that abortion is essentially okay if the child is going to die anyway once it is born. Wait wait wait, Huh?! Its’ okay to kill a BABY, yes a BABY, in a painful and horrific way because it will probably die anyway once born. Yeah, you know I have heard of babies who were “supposed to die” at birth, being born healthy and surviving. Doctors aren’t always right. And even if the baby is going to pass once born, then at least you get to hold your baby in your arms when it happens, rather than disposing of the parts in a plastic bio-hazard bag!!!
As I share this craziness with my husband, he says to me, “That’s the same as walking through the hospice wing of a hospital and just shooting everyone in the head because “they’re going to die anyway” right?”, so true! My husband has a point doesn’t he? I never thought of it that way and I am fairly certain that those who choose the argument of imminent death after birth as a green light for aborting the baby, haven’t thought of it that way either! At least it would seem that way.
The voices on the television go on to say; “No one is pro abortion, everyone is pro a woman’s choice”. Are you kidding me here? Sure, women should be able to choose what happens with their body, I agree with that. However, the baby inside them is no longer their body, it’s that child’s body, right? Therefore the woman should not get to decide when and how that child should die.
The women at the round table continue this discussion; “18,000 abortions per year occur after 20 weeks gestation”. This is, “ONLY” 1% of all abortions in the US, wow that’s staggering! 18,000 abortions is only 1%, that is a huge number in itself! I feel like I should be done listening to this monstrosity and change the channel, but despite my trepidation, I continue to listen.
They go on to say that if the child is malformed its okay to abort because it isn’t fair for the family to have to create a, and I quote, “new normal”. Okay now I feel the vomit about to come up right about now… Do people actually feel this way? Do people actually choose to take their baby’s life merely because it’s birth would cause them the need to find a new normal? Lets be clear here, any baby, disabled or not, causes the family to find a “new normal”!!! This is too much now! It’s all excuses for people to be irresponsible and heartless all while trying to make it seem acceptable. Especially for themselves. Does it help with the guilt maybe if one were to convince the brain of this?
How many times has the argument been, ” The baby isn’t viable so it’s alright to abort”. Let’s clarify that viability in this country is around 24-26 weeks gestation. Maybe you’re not sure what that means? A fetus that age typically looks like this:
This baby is actually 24 weeks, but could survive if born. In fact babies have been born at just shy of 22 weeks and survived. You telling me this baby cant feel the pain of an abortion? Yeah, I thought so… This little cutie weighs about 1.5 to 2 pounds at this age, and viable or not, it has a beating heart, a functioning brain, human features, actions, responses and feelings. They can hear and respond to music inside the womb and react to it with kicks or grimaces. They can suck their thumbs and play with their feet or umbilical cord in the womb, as many babies have been seen doing just that via ultrasound. It’s a person in there, not a clump of “viable” or “not viable” cells. Ultrasound techs who have been present at abortions have reported witnessing the baby trying to scramble and get away from the abortion instruments. They have even seen them appear to be screaming once it has begun. This heart-wrenching reaction has been dubbed “the silent scream”. If that doesn’t make your heart sink, my blog may not be the right place for you. My “mommy heart” is all over this emotion and it kills me.
I am not discounting the scars that are left behind for most of the women who chose this heinous procedure. They look back on their choice as a moment of weakness and they wish they would have chosen differently. But we live, and we learn, and we heal. I have never personally experienced this, however I know women who have, and it is sad to see them endure the pain of the choice. At the time it seems like the only way for one reason or another. Fear. What will she say to her family? She is too young. What will she do to get through it? She has no support. She has no money. She is afraid of what will happen to her body. She is utterly alone. What if she can’t finish school? She can’t raise a child. These thoughts come at her like a title wave and there is nobody to talk to, nobody to tell her that there is a way to overcome ALL of these fears. She is strong enough, but she doesn’t know it. That this will be okay.
My heart breaks for this woman.
How many babies are aborted because of a positive Down Syndrome diagnosis? Thousands! Nearly 90% in the US alone. But I personally know people who got this diagnosis, had the baby and guess what… NO DOWNS? What if they would have aborted merely on the doctors diagnosis? I cannot even fathom! What I really can’t figure out is, what is everyone so afraid of? So what your kid is “disabled ” in some way, I use that term carefully here as I really don’t see it that way. What about Van Gogh, Beethoven, Stephen Hawking, or even Nick Vujicic? All of these people have some form of severe “disability” yet lead/still lead full lives! I mean, Nick has no limbs at all and is successful, happy and has a beautiful wife and son. Yet somehow these parents think that this child who “may” have a disability or deformity isn’t worth saving? Sigh
Here is Nick pictured with his son. Does that look scary or beautiful to you? I vote beautiful!
I happen to know several parents who have children rocking that extra chromosome and those kids are fantastic, with happy parents to boot! They are not any more difficult for the parents to raise than a child without it. So there you go, all life is valuable. ALL babies are work for the parent and cause ones life to change drastically. Parenting is hard but so very rewarding. It is the greatest work I have ever done, the most important work, the most beautiful and life changing, and I would never change a thing about my choice to birth our children. Even as a single mother, young, with not a lot of support or ability to provide. Having my son was the BEST decision I ever made. It was scary, challenging and sometimes my infant son wasn’t the one doing all the crying. I still say, that boy was my blessing in disguise. He is my angel. I stand amazed at his spirit, his heart and the beautiful young man he is becoming. And it is all because I chose him. I wanted him. And now I have been blessed by him, he is my precious gift from God.
I pray every woman out there in the world chooses life for her baby, even if she chooses not to be the one raising him/her. I pray she will see what a blessing adoption can be, and choose life. I pray she will seek answers before following the advice of her doctor telling her to abort. I pray she will not blindly choose to kill her baby due to the many faces of fear. And ladies, there are so many resources out there to help you if you end up in a bad spot and need help. Most churches have pregnancy resource centers that will not judge you, they are there to help you. Adoption is a fantastic option and there are so many couples who would be great parents and cannot have children themselves. In most cases, you get to choose the couple who will adopt your baby and you may also choose to have an open or closed adoption (you can still be part of your baby’s life or not), and your medical expense will be paid, and so on. I am not an expert here, but all of these are options for you.
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